How do I not mess up my kids?

We are having some deep conversations in our online community. Hear from one mom as she asks:

"How do I not mess up my kids? Even though I'm willing to admit that I'm not perfect, I want to do this well."
- Real Refreshment Community Mom


For me it's to be able to say, Oh, so sorry, I really messed that up. I need to acknowledge to my children that I was impatient, I was rude, I was short, and apologize to them. I have found them to be so gracious and so forgiving of my imperfections.

And so in terms of messing your kids up, I really do believe moms, you would have to work really hard to do that.

I'm pretty confident that if you are daring to help educate your children if you're daring to engage in a community like Real Refreshment, chances are you're not going to mess your kids up.

The reality is we all have a sin nature. And that is what we need to fight against. And we need to help our children learn to fight against it too.

We're probably not going to mess them up because of how dedicated we are to them.

That's not because we're perfect, but that we can trust that God redeems our mistakes. We need to make use of our opportunities to ask forgiveness, to repent when we've done wrong to our children.

That's such a powerful thing that we can do.

How do I not mess up my kids? In short, trust. Trust and follow God, be diligent and loving them every day, and point them to Him.

The enemy wants to convince you that you will, and you can and you're destined to, and that's just NOT TRUE.

You're not destined to. You're not perfect, but you are not destined to mess up your kids so you can rest in that.

Dive in with me, as we dare to become the moms He's planned for us to be.

In His Grace,

Rachael