Author: Tauna Meyer

God’s Plan, Your Sanctification

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5–6

Whenever Christmas rolls around I think of that John Lennon song that comes on the radio every year: “And so this is Christmas… and what have you done? Another year over. A new one just begun.”

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I guess it’s the pop version of “teach us to number our days, so that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” Psalm 90:12

I used to get to the end of the year with a mild sense of guilt thinking of all the things I could have done, or had planned to do and just never got around to. All the habits I was going to start. All the goals I was going to accomplish. Sound familiar?

I would even start to think back to all those wasted years before I accepted Christ, and all the failed efforts to BE a better Christian. That guilt, along with excitement for the new year, would push me into making new goals and new lists of things to do. So that I could look back on it all once again and be disappointed that it did not meet my expectations.

Don’t you want something different? I know I do.

Of course, I have nothing against goals and establishing good habits for ourselves. I still do those things. But I’ve come to find great contentment and rest in a few key ideas that have grounded me. They have given me perspective rather than end-of-year angst:

  1. God’s plans are more important than my goals.
  2. God always accomplishes His purposes.
  3. God redeems our imperfect efforts.
  4. God’s mercies are new every morning.

Isn’t that such a relief? What a merciful blessing. Do you want to know what is even more encouraging? His plans and purposes for you are not elusive. He’s already told us exactly what He’s up to.

This is the will of God, your sanctification. 1 Thessalonians 4:3

Our sanctification is God’s goal, and it’s better than any New Years goal we could come up with on our own. It’s a sanctification that changes us ever into the likeness of Christ and can only be done in us by the work of the Holy Spirit.

What is our part? To yield to Him in full surrender. To simply trust and obey, just like that sweet hymn by John H. Sammis says: “Trust and obey, for there’s no other way to be happy in Jesus, but to trust and obey.”

Dear sisters in Christ, as the new year rushes in, we can remain content and confident that God will complete His good work in us until it is finished. He will bring about all His good purposes for the glory of His name. Amen.

Good Instructions for Good Purposes

“The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me; your steadfast love, O Lord, endures forever. Do not forsake the work of your hands.” Psalm 138:8

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It’s time to go to the grocery store again. How can these little people eat food so fast?! You scan the cupboards and fridge, writing down what you need to make the meals for the coming week.

Armed with a plan, you round up your small herd of children, the diaper bag, the sippy cups, your purse, the coupons, toys for the baby, the stroller for the oldest to push, food rations, and emergency flare, and proceed to count the kids as you load them into the van. 

You are a woman on a mission! Groceries must happen, because, wouldn’t you know it, the family eats every day. Sometimes three times! And you are the preparer of the food. So you smile, pop in an audiobook to count the trip as school, and mentally go over the store so you can get in and out as quickly as possible. 

As you roll into the parking lot and prepare for the Grand Unloading, it hits you: You forgot the grocery list!

The camera zooms in on your face and for a brief moment you are frozen in time. Then you wail and collapse to the floor in despair. Outwardly, of course, you take a deep breath and brave it anyway. 

In the end, you survive. You leave the store with groceries. However, it felt more like wandering in the desert for 40 days and 40 nights and you’re pretty sure cocoa puffs weren’t on the list.  

Purpose. 

Our purpose is to love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul, mind and strength and to love others well. For us moms part of that is to teach our kids to know and love the Lord, pointing ourselves and our children to Him in all things. Our instructions on how to carry out our purposes are found in God’s Word. 

Far too often we’re stumbling along the aisles without really looking to God’s Word for guidance on how to go about this business of living and parenting for Him. Ladies, when we do that, we might as well walk into the grocery store without a list! (I know, right? The horror.)

But we, dear women, are blessed to have God’s instructions right at the tip of our fingers. 

How to teach our children about Jesus?

How to deal with our own mom anger?

How to have a godly marriage?

How to raise boys of honor?

How to sit at the feet of Jesus?

God’s Word and the work of the Holy Spirit in our lives gives us the guidance and instructions we need to pursue the purposes we have been given. But the wonderful news? Ultimately, it is God Himself who fulfills His good purposes for us. We have the privilege of being a part of that journey, and can trust Him with the rest.

Can I encourage you (and myself) to know our instructions and our Instructor well? Be in God’s Word! I know it’s hard. Sometimes there are seasons where creative Bible reading and prayer time are needed. But we can do it if we make it a priority.

Make the effort to hide God’s Word in your heart. Read up and find out what it says about a certain topic, and ask God for the eyes to see and the heart to understand what He wants you to do.

The more we know the scriptures the more we know our instructions for the purposes we have been called to. It may not look like a grocery list, but it will sure keep us from wandering the aisles of the Christian life!

Lord, please help us to look to You and Your Word when we deal with struggles and uncertainty. Help us to run to scripture for guidance instead of wandering life’s situations without it. In our parenting especially, Lord, teach us to look to You for instruction, and trust that You will bring about Your good purposes in our lives and the lives of our children. In Jesus’ name, amen. 

A Hope That Anchors Our Soul

Tears streamed down my face and I fixed my eyes ahead, signing loudly, vaguely aware that if I started wiping them away, I would become more conspicuous. But it was too late. Little hands tugged my arm and a little voice whispered “are you ok, mama?” I smiled and nodded, wiping my face and turning back to the worship.

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It gets me every time.

O to grace how great a debtor
Daily I’m constrained to be!
Let Thy goodness, like a fetter
Bind my wandering heart to Thee.
Prone to wander, Lord, I feel it.
Prone to leave the God I love.
Here’s my heart, O take and seal it,
Seal it for Thy courts above.

My favorite words from my favorite hymn, Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing by Robert Robinson, cut right to the center of me every single time.

They remind me how so very often my weak and fleshly heart wanders from the Lord and His ways. How quickly I fall into discouragement. How unfaithful I really am. Is the same true for you?

But it also reminds me of the incredible hope that we have.

“We have this as a sure and steadfast anchor of the soul, a hope that enters into the inner place behind the curtain, where Jesus has gone as a forerunner on our behalf, having become a high priest forever after the order of Melchizedek.” Hebrews 6:19-20 ESV

You see, our souls are anchored in Jesus Christ to the inner place… into the Holy of Holies… at the right hand of God. Our hope is in God alone. It is a hope that steadies our path and brings us back to Him. 

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That hope – the promises we have in Christ – strengthens us to persevere and battle discouragement, wait on God’s perfect timing in current trials, and walk in faith and obedience.

May we always remember in those hard times that we have power in Christ and hope in His name. It is the love and goodness of God that binds our wandering hearts to Him through the work of the cross. All praise be to Him!

Lord, I pray for encouragement and strengthening hope for our hearts. Help us to remain anchored and steadfast in You. In Jesus’ name, Amen. 

When You’re Struggling With Bitterness

See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled; Hebrews 12:15

Bitterness has a habit of sneaking into the door of our hearts when we’re looking at personal injustice rather than the cross of Jesus. 

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We have all been there: a rejection, an injustice, or an offense that left us angry or hurting. No matter how level we are, or how thick our skin is, we sometimes deal with unfair situations that wound us. Such is life.

What matters more, however, is how we respond. Bitterness can silently move in and put down roots without us realizing it.

How do we know bitterness has become an issue for us? Here are some things I’ve noticed from personal experience:

  • We dwell on the injustice, nurturing the offense, playing it over and over in our minds. Ever catch yourself talking out loud about it, telling the person why they were wrong?
  • We allow it undue influence in our life, dominating our thoughts more often than it should, sending us into an internal tailspin, or impacting our relationships.
  • It brings destruction and sin. We begin gossiping, harboring ill thoughts toward others, etc. I believe it opens us up to be more susceptible to temptation with other sins as well.
  • We become self-focused instead of Christ focused. Ultimately, we put our focus and attention on ourselves or our circumstances instead of on Christ, which is always a recipe for disaster.

I am thinking now of two instances where people have hurt me directly or indirectly and I realized weeks, months, and even years later that a root of bitterness had grown in me. It can be easy to miss at first, but it needs to be dealt with.

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. – Ephesians 4:31-32

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So what can we do to uproot bitterness? 

  • Acknowledge it. Realizing we’re struggling with bitterness and how damaging it can be is a big step in the right direction!
  • Confess and repent of anything in the situation that is our part, including any time we have spent nurturing that bitterness to feed our sense of justice. Pray to God and ask forgiveness, and talk about it with someone you trust!
  • Overlook an offense. Sometimes the offense is something we can overlook. The scripture teaches us to do this, and it certainly brings peace for us! This may take practice, but it’s a worthy thing to build into our character. Remember that everyone has baggage and struggles, and ultimately it’s between them and God.
  • Be willing and available to forgive and/or reconcile – scripture seems to clearly link forgiveness to confession and repentance. But what if that’s not happening? Our part is to have a humble heart open to giving forgiveness if/when sincere repentance comes. It is open to reconciling and, with discretion and wisdom, possibly restoring the relationship. But our part is to have a heart that is willing to take part in whatever redeeming work God has in store for the relationship.
  • Pray for them. It’s not easy sometimes, but praying for those who have hurt us is a healing work, a service to them, and honors our Lord. A friend once told me she prays three things for those people in her life: blessing, peace, and protection. It’s a valuable habit, these three prayers. They teach us much about what control we might trying to hold onto and what we really believe about how God answers the prayers of His people. You cannot hold onto bitterness against someone when you are sincerely praying for them.
  • Continually choosing to trust God. This is what all that is about, right? Trusting God with our hearts, with fairness and justice, with the relationship and what might happen, with the person who hurt us, and with how our prayers will be answered. In uncertainty and disappointment, God is our Rock and Redeemer! He is the One in whom we can entrust the whole tangle of relationships and emotions mixed up with sin and selfishness. Continue to lay it all at His feet and soon you will find it has been released from your burdens!
  • Fixing our eyes on Christ and dwelling on His goodness, capturing every thought. Oh that we might do this in all things and in all circumstances! When we feel bitterness and resentment creeping up and sneaking in, capture it and hold it up to the light of Christ! Focus your heart on the truth of scripture and on His everlasting (and right here right now) goodness! Shove bitterness away and draw near to God.

Lord, thank You for Your goodness and Your love! Please show us any wicked way in us, including bitterness and strife. Help us to confess and repent of any time we have spent harboring bitterness. Give us pliable and humble hearts toward You, and help us to have a willingness to let go and trust completely in Your plans and Your timing. Be with us and remind us to pray for those who have hurt us, releasing in our hearts all of it to You in your perfect love and holiness. In Jesus’ name, amen. 

Prayer Life of a Real Busy Mom

Tears rolled down his 6 year old cheeks as we talked. “Woah, what’s wrong, buddy?”

He wipes his face with the backs of his hands and props himself up on the pillow. “I just can’t remember to pray,” he says with a wavering voice. “We said today in Bible study about how we need to pray and I can never remember! Is God mad about it?”

His eyes filled with fresh tears and I smiled and gave him a big hug, trying not to chuckle too much. “Oh, buddy. God is not mad at you. Praying is so important, but sometimes it can be hard to do. God knows you, He loves you, and He understands. The important thing is to keep going back to Him in prayer.”

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We prayed together and I asked God to bless his little heart and help him feel His love and mercy. We asked for God to help my son, reminding him to pray and continuing teaching him how.

This little conversation with my son lingered with me for some time. How often do I resolve to pray more or more consistently and then forget? How often do I fail in my prayer life? And truth be told, part of me wonders if God is mad at me.

That was a few years ago. Fast forward to today, and although I still struggle and am still growing, I have learned a few important things that have helped me prioritize prayer in my busy mom life.

Prayer is essential.

“…and call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify me.” Psalm 50:15

Prayer is essential. Of course, we already know this, but how much of our daily life doesn’t really reflect it? We need to be reminded of how important prayer is! The reality is that we are completely desperate for God every single day, and prayer is critical.  There is always trouble, whether in our situation or in our hearts. Our part is to call on God. His part is to do His work for His glory.

Encourage your heart and spur yourself on with reminders about how important prayer is! It is the first step in becoming a more prayerful woman.

  • It is a primary way we communicate and hear from the Lord of our lives – the One who has authority and power to work in our hearts and our situation for our ultimate gain and His ultimate glory!
  • It is an act of obedience and worship, aligning our will with His instead of getting wrapped up in what we want in our limited perspective of things.
  • It is a demonstration of faith and devotion for our children, showing them how essential prayer is to the Christian walk.
  • It brings peace and contentment because we are focused on Christ instead of the circumstances.
  • It builds our faith as we recognize the many answers to our prayers and give God glory in them all!
  • It is a delight and a blessing to the Lord!

I am often coming back to this place. To reminding myself and encouraging myself with why prayer is important and why I need it so much! They say that desperation is the father of invention. When we really know deep down how desperate we are for God, we are more likely to stay motivated and make time for it in our busy schedules! I find pockets of time large and small in my daily and weekly routine and focus on prayer in those times as much as I can.

Prayer is work.

“And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests.With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.” Ephesians 6:18

As much as prayer is important, it’s also not easy. Prayer is not meant to be trivial, fluffy, or some checkbox we tick off at the end of the day! Yet how often do we (I) make it that way? While prayer can certainly bring refreshment, peace, and direction, it is also work. And sometimes it’s even hard work. We are laboring in prayer, interceding for others, bringing our husband and children to the feet of Jesus, crying out for mercy and guidance, and leaning into the Creator.

Prayer is work that requires diligence, time, effort, and energy. And as a mom with very little of any of that to spare, I can easily begin letting it slide out of my schedule. But I know now this truth: The work of prayer is, hands down, the most important work we can do. It’s an investment into any situation, effort, or relationship I might be dealing with. It’s an investment in THE relationship that matters most!

After beating my head against the wall for two years about a difficult relationship, I finally submitted it (for real) in prayer. The peace came, just like He said it would. After devoting and prioritizing prayer for our homeschool with my time and attention, we had best year ever! I have seen the real blessings and results of a heart that is truly devoted to prayer and a daily life that reflects that. I certainly still have ups and downs in my prayer life, but the Lord is faithful to continue changing and growing me.

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Yes, it takes time, attention, and energy. Prayer is a habit, a relationship, and a godward focus with our hearts that is worked out in us over a lifetime. But the work is more than worth it, and the Lord in His mercy helps us! Pray for the desire, focus, and energy. Pray for help with the logistics as you put prayer first. It could be your best year ever!

A Family Tradition of Yaweh-Yireh

She turned the wooden token around in her hands. “Mama, what is this one about?”

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I looked down at the symbols, remembering the exact moment when I drew them. “That one was about how the Lord provided us with this home. We wondered how it would all work out since we didn’t have much money at all. In the end this house is what He blessed our family with! And do you know why?”

She smiled and put the token back, rifling through all the others in the box. “Because Yaweh-Yireh, Mama.”

“That’s right, sweetheart. The Lord provides. He has, He does, and He will.”

Abraham named the place Yahweh-Yireh (which means ‘the Lord will provide’). To this day, people still use that name as a proverb: ‘On the mountain of the Lord it will be provided.’ – Genesis 22:14

Worry can sometimes sneak up on me. Grumbling and complaining can too quickly take root in my heart. Is the same true for you?

Several years ago I was studying my Bible and reflecting on this when the Lord impressed upon me an ancient truth in a fresh new way: A deep, unshaken faith is tied to the remembrance of God’s provision.

I want a deep, unshaken faith, don’t you? And I want that for my children.

So that was the year we started the Yaweh-Yireh box. It became a tradition to keep ourselves in the habit of noticing and remembering those times that God provided in a remarkable way.

In this tradition, we nurture our faith by writing down what He has done, so that we can face the challenges of life with full confidence in the Lord’s provision. It has been such a blessing, drawing us closer to the Lord!

Are you struggling with worry and fear? Can I encourage you? Spend time remembering! Be emboldened with the truth that God sees and goes ahead of you, preparing and providing.

Find a way to physically remember God’s provision in your family. You can start a Yaweh-Yireh box like ours, write them down in a family journal at dinner time each week, or do whatever works best for you. But do find a way to make this a part of your family culture: regularly remembering times of the Lord’s gracious provision, thus strengthening your faith and the faith of your children.

God has provided, friend! What’s more, we know that He is providing in thousands of ways right in this moment, and that He will continue to provide for all of our days to come.

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What does He provide? Wisdom, guidance, care, physical needs, spiritual needs, emotional needs… Above all that, He provides Himself. That’s what we really need, isn’t it? The token my daughter asked about could have been for extra patience, peace in the turmoil or some other way God provided for that situation. We can trust that whatever He provides will be in our best interest.

At base of every obstacle and worry we face, there is the deep and urgent need for more of Him. Here is the blessed reality: Every one of our needs is fully satisfied in the Lord.

Dear heart, whatever you’re facing – whatever challenge, heartache, or struggle – rest in the knowledge that He provides. It may not always look like what you expected. It may not happen when you wanted it to. But it is always in His perfect way and in His perfect timing.

What a serene and quiet life might you lead if you would leave providing to the God of providence!… He has never refused to bear your burdens, He has never fainted under their weight. Come, then, soul! have done with fretful care, and leave all thy concerns in the hand of a gracious God. – Charles Spurgeon

A Peace-Filled Heart (and what we’re having for lunch)

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6

First thing in the morning, my kids’ little feet hit the floor and they come running in and ask “Mom, what are we going to eat?”

Do yours do that, too? 

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10:00 AM rolls around and we’re mid-lesson, which is a perfect time, I suppose, for the question “Mom, when are we eating?” or “Are we going to have lunch?”

As if NOT having lunch was ever a thing.

While we’re eating lunch (!) someone asks “Mom, what are we eating for dinner? Am I going to like it?” And they all join in, fully in agreement with these all-important questions.

What in the world?!? Where does this mealtime anxiety come from, anyway? 

Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7

As I’m staring at them in disbelief, slightly amused and slightly annoyed, I have the fleeting and uncomfortable thought that I do the same thing.

Oh, how I imagine I look so very similar to these children of mine when seen through the eyes of God. How limited my perspective is, as I clamor for needs and wants, when He has so much more planned for me. Where does my anxiety come from, anyway? 

I know God loves me.

I know God will provide for me.

I know that God has my best interest in mind.

I know that everything will work out for His good purposes.

I know that I can trust Him when I don’t understand.

I know that even when things don’t go the way I planned or desired, it’s all in His good hands.

I know that true peace comes in trusting the Lord with all my heart, and leaning not on my own understanding. (Proverbs 3:5)

Yes, I know all that just like my kids know similarly basic truths about me and my heart for them.

Yet how many times does my anxiety, fear, and desire to control of the outcome betray thoughts and feelings I would rarely verbalize? Thoughts that show how little peace I really have in my heart?  Questions like…

When is this need going to be fulfilled, already?

What if it’s painful or isn’t what I wanted?

What if it’s horrible!? Oh, I hope that doesn’t happen!

What if what I hope for most never happens?

What if God’s blessings just stop coming?

What if I’m doing all this wrong – motherhood, homemaking, homeschooling? What if I’m failing Him?

What in the world?!? Sometimes it seems like worry can twist truth into a lie in order to feed itself. Friends, when we find these worrying thoughts stealing our peace and our joy, we need to capture them and hold them up to the light of the gospel. 

You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. Isaiah 26:3

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There is no room in a peace-filled heart for anything but purposeful trust in God. We must continually choose to trust the Lord wholly, and purposefully stay our minds on Christ.

Even when things are uncertain.

Especially then.

Lord, help us to trust fully in You, resting in the knowledge that it’s all in Your hands. Give us a peace that surpasses understanding, even in the challenging times. Help us to keep our minds on You, and cast aside worries and anxieties that would steal our peace and our joy. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Humility in Parenting

“Mommy, I didn’t like it when you yelled. It hurt my feelings.” Her big brown eyes were filled with tears and her little lip quivered. I kneeled and sighed. It was a deep, sad, humility-filled, I’m-so-sorry kind of sigh.

I looked at her little face and smiled inside as she blinked a little too hard so the tears would drop with proper drama. And I listened. I already knew the still, small voice would come. The one that says “apologize well.” Ok, Lord. 

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“But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, ‘God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.'” James 4:6

“We need to talk about what happened. It’s not ok to disobey mama. I’ll discuss it with Dad first and then we’ll chat after dinner, ok?” I pause and put my hands on her arms. “But sweetheart, that did not make it ok for me to yell, and I’m really, very sorry. It was a sin for me to act out in anger that way and I don’t want that between us. Will you please forgive me?” 

She does. And we pray. We pray confession and repentance, forgiveness and restoration, and strength to turn away from temptation and turn toward Christ. 

There are few things as humbling as parenting. Isn’t that true? If I ever reach a moment where I think I’m doing pretty well in godly living and following His ways, parenting will snap me back to reality. In truth, I still have a long way to go! I imagine the same is true for you as well. 

I often say that marriage and parenting are like a crucible that is used to purify us. Or like a press that is used to form us. In all the challenges of parenting we are pressed hard. It’s alarming sometimes when we see what impurities and sins rise to the surface. Sometimes it’s downright embarrassing and shameful.

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Oh, but what a precious crucible. What a blessed formation! To be pressed and molded by the loving hand of God as He sanctifies us through our parenting. 

It’s true, parenting will humble us like little else. We will sin. We will blow it. But thanks be to God for his continual mercies and faithfulness! He replaces shame with hope, brokenness with sweet dependence on Him. The beauty of a humble heart in parenting is more precious than we can imagine. In those moments when we apologize well, we approach the throne of Grace with our children. With humility. We point ourselves and them to Christ, the perfect example of humility. What an amazing gift! 

Lord, thank you for teaching us humility. Help us to live it out in our daily parenting so that our homes may overflow with your mercy and grace. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Parenting by Faith, Not Fear

“I’m a little worried that Johnny hasn’t accepted Christ yet.” My friend crossed her legs and switched the baby to the other side. “I accepted Jesus when I was four, I think, and I know I shouldn’t worry, but I do.”

I nodded, fully understanding that concern. I came to Christ later in life. I know that the Holy Spirit, not me, will lead my children to the Lord. I know that God loves my children, has a plan for them, and desires that they become part of His everlasting family.

I trust God with my children. I really do. And yet sometimes, well, maybe I don’t.

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“Yes,” I say, “It’s hard not to wonder if I’m doing enough, or if I’m doing it right! I wonder sometimes if I’m talking to them about Jesus enough, or if maybe my own issues are getting in the way.”

It’s then that I have this thought: If I really trust God with my children, why do I always mentally wring my hands over whether they are/will be saved? Whether I’ve done enough? Yes, I love them and want what’s best for them. But so does God- even more so – and in HIM is the power of salvation!

“Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness.” – Psalm 37:3

Salvation is of the Lord

We know it’s true: Salvation is of the Lord. Only the Holy Spirit can change the hearts of our children. Not us. He calls us to diligently teach and train them in the ways of the Lord and to trust the results with Him.

Do we? Do you?

Fear-based parenting has no place in the life of a Christian. If we want our children’s faith to flourish, we should tend to our own, and regularly fall to our knees to pray for our kids.

Fear is NOT of the Lord

“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” – 2 Timothy 1:7

When God blessed us with our children and asked us to raise them for Him, fearful parenting was not on the work order.

  • Fearful parenting wrings its hands, fretting and worrying.
  • It is paralyzed by the “what-if’s” of life.
  • It is unsettled and even panicked by the idea that it cannot control choices and outcomes.
  • It makes fear-based decisions, betraying the fact that it doesn’t really trust God.
  • It reels hard with every sin and sorrow life throws its way.
  • It teeters on the edge of a works-based faith.
  • It is no faith at all.

Don’t ask me how I know fear-based parenting so well.

Author and Perfector of Our Faith

God does not want us to parent out of fear. Instead, He calls us to faith-filled parenting, by the power of the Holy Spirit. He wants us to look to Jesus, whom Hebrews 12 calls “the author and perfector of our faith,” to finish the work He has begun in our children.

  • Faith-filled parenting finds peace in the sovereignty of God.
  • It acknowledges the hard realities of life AND the power of God.
  • It rests in the fact that only the Holy Spirit can change hearts, watching for it with hope.
  • It is empowered and equipped by Christ to diligently teach and train, surrendering the outcome to God.
  • It lives on its knees, praying for the children’s salvation and faith.
  • It lives out a walk of true faith in Christ.

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Be diligent in your calling as a parent! Teach them to know and love the Lord. Run the race well. THEN rest in the knowledge that the results of your work are in God’s capable hands. Trust Him with their faith.

“So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.” – Romans 10:17

Teach it and preach it, friends, in word and in deed!

Lord, help us to parent Your children in faith, not fear. Grant us a great peace and confidence that You are working in their lives and that Your plans for them are good. Please equip and strengthen us for the work you have called us to, helping us always point our children to Jesus, the author and perfector of our faith.

Amen.

Finding Joy in the Ordinary

Yesterday was a rather ordinary day in our home. My husband was at work, we had finished our morning work for homeschooling, and the kids were off playing. Joy.

The baby and I were living it up in the kitchen. He was happily watching me from his bouncer as I prepared mass quantities of food that would be gone too quickly and the dishes were piling up. I began to notice the happy chatter in the other rooms turning to bickering. And then the baby started fussing. 

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Sigh. Well, it was good while it lasted. 

I glanced at the clock and couldn’t help but wonder if, for the second time in human history, there was a battle going on somewhere and God had stopped the sun in the sky. Why in the world was time moving so slowly today? Why did I feel so tired? And why, suddenly, did the ordinary work of Mom and homemaker feel like a mountain to climb? 

Then it happened. That merciful and quiet voice that spoke to my heart the words I needed to hear: “The joy of the Lord is my strength.” 

Oh. Right.

You see, I have been praying for joy in myself and in my family, and studying what the Bible says about it. Do you know what I found? I found that there is great joy in the mundane.

Do you struggle to find joy in the ordinary days? Do you get weighed down by the mundane? 

Whether you are overwhelmed with the hard repetition of mothering and being a keeper of the home, or are facing situations that are particularly challenging, I can tell you this with certainty: there is joy for you! 

As followers of Christ, our joy doesn’t come from our circumstances. It comes from knowing  the Lord and His character – from abiding in Christ and the Word of God. 

The joy of Lord is a deep and unshakable joy in spite of our circumstances.  The more we know God and spend time with Him, the more we are transformed by the Holy Spirit. Joy is a fruit of the Spirit, after all, and not something we just drum up on our own effort. 

His Joy

As we abide in Christ and spend time studying, meditating on, and praying the Word, the more we experience the joy that is HIS becoming our own. We abide, He transforms. We focus on Him, He fills us with His joy. 

So, thinking on these things, I scooped up the baby and headed off toward the escalating conflict. I took a deep breath and prayed “Lord give me wisdom and give us Your joy… and please help me remember where I put my coffee.”

As busy moms, the joy of the Lord is our strength. Remembering that He is present with us as we clean the floors and teach the math changes everything. Even more so: remembering that He asked us to do it! He takes great joy in being our Lord, our King, and our constant companion through the Holy Spirit. That joy – the joy of the Lord – that is our strength, dear ladies! 

May we abide in Christ and be transformed by the Spirit! In whatever mountain you are facing today, I pray that the joy of the Lord permeates your days and fills your heart as you dwell in His presence.