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Attention: Obsessive-Compulsive, Perfectionist, Control-Freaks - C.H.I.L.L. O.U.T.

Attention: Obsessive-Compulsive, Perfectionist,Control-Freaks

C.H.I.L.L. O.U.T.!

Which one are you?

Before you dive into the questions and self-assessment below, just let me say that I couldn’t have written this if I didn’t suffer from all three! In the past I could have answered “yes” to every question below. And for what it’s worth, I didn’t see a problem with it at the time. At that time, the problem was clear: it was everyone else.

But God.

Yes, this is one example in my life where God graciously and powerfully interjected Himself into my circumstances. He was not willing that I continue in my selfish pattern. He loved me enough to allow circumstances and situations to happen which not only shined the light into the darkness of my selfishness, but He walked me into the Light.

This discussion about CHILL OUT is huge. It’s important. It’s timely. It’s liberating. It’s a journey back to joy, back to hope, back to peace. Learning to CHILL OUT is about walking in the Light as He is in the Light. It’s about letting your light shine, about being salt and light about being filled with the Spirit.

If you make the decision to CHILL OUT, you are choosing to put aside lists and image and being right. It means that you are choosing instead to focus on Him who alone is worthy. It means that you lean into Him, His will, His plan, His timing. It means you begin the journey of resting in Him.

It doesn’t mean you become lazy or inefficient or careless. The enemy wants you to fear that if you and don’t maintain the list, the image, and the ‘right’, that everything will fall apart. It won’t. REALLY, it won’t. But I’ll tell you what will happen. Lots more smiles and laughter, more relaxing and resting, more of Him and less of me.

Are you willing to live by faith and let God hold it all together?

You might be Obsessive-Compulsive if…

You like to make lists all the time about everything

A lost list is a serious issue

Marking things off your list gives you great pleasure

Not marking things off your list makes you feel unproductive, no matter how many

Diapers you changed or books read snuggled on the couch, those weren’t on the list

Efficiency is extremely important to you

You equate relaxing with being lazy

Relaxing is actually difficult for you

Relaxing isn’t a priority; it never makes the ‘list’

You are drawn to formulas for parenting and other relationships

You might be a Perfectionist if…

You think about what others will think as the key issue in a situation

Your actions are motivated by what others will think

You are aware of your image and seek to maintain it

You are easily aggravated when others don’t ‘fall in line’ with your plans

Your kids’ behavior (including how they dress and perform) is all part of your image

You expect your kids to play their part well

Others feel incompetent around you and you don’t mind

Much of your happiness is wrapped up in what others think about you

Most all of your actions are careful and intentionally planned, not much spontaneity

You don’t enjoy much peace because other people don’t cooperate

You are not generally aware of other’s feelings, just their contribution to the image

You might be a Control Freak if…

You believe that your way is the best way in every circumstance

In just about all circumstances, you would just rather do it yourself

You often think, “Other people just don’t get it”

Others feel unnecessary around you, like you don’t need them

What other do doesn’t matter to you

You avoid dependence on others

Flexibility is not a virtue you aspire to

You re-do work others have done, not because the task isn’t complete, but because the task wasn’t completed like you would have done it

No matter how you answered the questions, don’t despair! Help is on the way. It is God’s will for each of us to be conformed into the image of His one and only Son Jesus Christ. He is the answer to what is ailing us. We can, by the power of God, overcome these issues and become the woman He has planned for us to be.

Join me next week for the first letter in our acrostic, “C”. Each week there will be a vlog post and a PDF downloadable study to accompany it. Let’s not shy away from these issues and give the common excuse of: “That’s just the way I am.” No, let’s dare to submit to the Potter’s hands and allow Him to mold us into the image of His Son.

 Rachael Carman

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I had it going on—or so I thought. After surviving sixty-three months of pregnancy, countless sleepless nights, and 35,000+ diapers, this one-time control freak encountered God’s grace. And I’m here to encourage you to do the same! I love encouraging and inspiring moms to grow deeper in their walk and relationship with our Heavenly Father.

I’ve been married to my beloved, Davis, since 1986; our life has been a roller-coaster ride, with God at the controls. We have seven kids and let me tell you our family loves to laugh! I enjoy playing in the dirt, eating dark chocolate, and walking on the beach. I’m an author and speaker and I am passionate about helping moms not only survive motherhood, but draw near to the Father and thrive in motherhood.

I’m so glad you’re here.
Posted on: November 25, 2015, by : Rachael Carman