Forgiving the Unforgivable

Three years ago I was rocking my 2-month-old baby when my (then) husband broke the news that he no longer wanted to be married.

I’ve struggled daily with forgiveness for more than 3 years, learning that forgiveness can’t always be given in an instant.

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I can’t say, “I forgive you for leaving us.” and suddenly be rid of anger and hurt forever. That anger surfaces over and over: when I face a parenting decision alone, when medical bills arrive, when I’m lonely, when a child asks why her father left, and on, and on. Each and every time that anger washes over me, I must again try to forgive.

What can be done to forgive what feels unforgivable?

Realize that forgiveness isn’t ‘once and done’. It is a constant. Each time anger surfaces, there is need to forgive once again.

What is forgiveness? Is it condoning the actions of the one who hurt you? Is it removing the need for accountability? Is it pretending the wrong never happened or there were no consequences?

No! Forgiveness is simply acknowledging a wrong and giving it to God, realizing that He is the one in control of the situation. Rather than worrying about just punishment for an offense, allow God to take care of it.

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Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” Romans 12:19

Even after three years, I am no pro at forgiveness. I must still frequently revisit forgiveness through prayer, asking for help to surrender my anger and hurt.

Friend, if you are struggling to forgive, remember that forgiveness is an ongoing battle. Approach God with prayer each time you find yourself dwelling on the transgression. Recognize that God is in control of righting injustice and you are simply in control of letting go.

Amanda McDowell
I’m a homeschooling, blogging, adventuring Momma. My life is definitely busy, but I work hard to be intentional in spite of the craziness that is Motherhood. I love to share things I’ve learned along the way during this Motherhood journey- including being a mom-of-many, homeschooling, single motherhood.
Posted on: September 28, 2017, by : Amanda McDowell

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