When No One Claps For You
Every day we notice all the little things our people do. We encourage our spouses. We cheer for our little people. Every day we hope that what we do has deep and lasting meaning to those we love.
Yet as moms, what about us? Do we still need a word of encouragement? Do we need someone to clap for us?
Being a mom is hard work! It’s tempting to lose hope that what we do is of any significance.
We make it on time to appointments. We carry in all four library bags. We pay the late fees. We call the insurance company. We pay the bills. We pack the lunches. We make supper, well, if cereal is considered supper; we made it. We pick up the milk. We pick up the coats off the floor, again.
And as we tuck the kids into bed with kisses and go out to the finally quiet kitchen, does anyone notice?
Maybe our children said a thank you throughout the day…maybe not.
Maybe our husbands notice the house was picked up…maybe he had a rough day and didn’t notice. Maybe a parent stopped in and gave us a compliment…maybe we don’t have parents close.
There just might be a chance that no one noticed and no one clapped for us moms today. Let’s face it…it just might happen.
I’m just going to say it out loud… I NEED someone to notice me.
I need someone to cheer me on! Yet many times, clapping just doesn’t come.
Searching for clapping
When I need encouragement, I find myself with one of these two reactions…
- I go to others and search for their attention.
- I go to God for His Truth.
When I go to others, I generally go looking for something to do. Something to do, so that when I am done, people will notice and clap.
I sign up to be on that one extra committee. People pass out compliments to people on committees.
I look for reactions from social media, I post something on Facebook to get attention. Perhaps I’ll be sure to use only the most awesome pictures on Instagram.
I may even use a combination of social media and things I do…hello, Pinterest. Anyone can find the cutest idea on Pinterest and use it at the big event. This would considered a two-for-one clap. 😉
Now, don’t get me wrong, Facebook is a great way to keep up with friends. Instagram is an awesome way to see what is up in someone else’s life. And Pinterest is, well…inspiring to say the least. It can help us create memories and happy smiles. Neither is wrong. That is NOT my point here.
My point is: I can not go to these places to get love, affirmation, or ‘clapping’.
Why? Why not?
Let me tell you why. This attention and this clapping… it lasts for just one minute.
Then, I have to hop on the next committee and get some more “atta girls”. I have to find the next awesome thing to post or the next gorgeous centerpiece to find and create from Pinterest.
It only lasts a minute. Maybe a day. Maybe a week if I’m lucky. Yet, it never fills me up for long. Believe me, I know! I may have tried it a time or two!
Let’s be honest though. Sometimes this crazy hopping from one thing to the next is really at my family’s great expense.
Friends, I’ve found another option: God!
God doesn’t need us to be on any committees. God doesn’t care how many pixels our Instagram picture is. He doesn’t care how many likes we get on Facebook. God sees our heart! He can give us the confidence we need to go on.
Wait, there’s more! God, He is truthful. We may forget, but sometimes those voices out there don’t always tell us the truth. God is truthful. He may tell us we need to change something or that we need to get rid of some sin in our life. He may be giving us a “Standing Ovation”. He tells us the truth. We can take His kind words to heart.
He sees all the little things we do in love. Those little things we do for our children. Those things no one else seems to notice. He sees when we set aside the book are reading to be with our husband. He sees when we do the laundry even when we would rather just rest. He sees us clear off the kitchen counter for the fourth time today.
The God who sees it all is always available. We can run to Him for a word of affirmation. He is our Hope. Our significance is found in Him. He is always ready to give us a pat on the back. He notices and cares about us. Even if no one else is clapping.
What do you do when no one claps for you? What do you do when no one notices all you have done? Where do you go to find someone to clap for you? Run to the Father, friends, and know that you’re loved.