When Forgiveness Looks Like Grace

Sometimes the things that need to be forgiven aren’t the huge hurts and mess ups. Often, it’s the little things that happen quite by accident that most need forgiveness.


I’m pretty sure that the rules of our house concerning rough-housing and mindless clumsiness are similar to many other families. Even with that rule, among six children, it’s bound to be broken. And then, actual things are broken.

One particular day, a favorite figurine from a collection was knocked off of the shelf and broke into several pieces; hidden and pushed back into a cabinet. It was special because it was one of a husband and wife in a sweet embrace. I thought that it depicted the tenderness that we have in our marriage so well.

As much as I adored that figurine, I loved my child more. I love my child enough to not fly off in rage, and in the process destroying her over something that could easily be replaced.

Grace in that same way was extended to me when I was a child. I’ve had my fair share of knocking over that freshly poured glass of iced sweet tea, breaking one of my mom’s favorite trinkets, showing up late when I’d just promised to be on time, and especially deeper grace shown when I told my mom and dad of the results of sexual sin.

All of those things were a result of forgiveness looking like grace. I learned that my heavenly Father has the authority to forgive and forget all of the sins that I was guilty of when I turned to Him for that forgiveness.


He gently turns my face to a few of His words, the grace that poured over me when I read in John 8 of the woman caught in the act of adultery stood before Jesus and her accusers. After the call for her death and Jesus telling her accusers to throw the first stone if they, themselves, were without sin, Jesus asks the woman, “Where are those accusers of yours? Has no one condemned you?” …”Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.”

God solidified my knowledge of when forgiveness looks like grace in 1 John 1:9,

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgives us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

God doesn’t hold a grudge against us! We’re His children and He’d rather us know Him as a grace giver. Are there consequences that come from sin? Many times, absolutely! But there’s still the grace given to come through them.

When there is an opportunity to extend grace, I hope to take it, because so much of what I’ve received forgiveness for was shown through grace.

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Kela Nellums
I am my Daddy's (Abba) girl. I have a major crush on my awesome husband. Mom of 6, Mother in Law and "K" (grandma)! Enjoying life in South Carolina with Sword and Coffee.
My desire is to daily to worship God and pursue excellence in every area of my life.
I write about Faith, Marriage, and Relationships
Posted on: September 14, 2017, by : Kela Nellums